A Total Miscarriage of Justice

I never in a million years expected something so horrible could happen to my family.

This blog has been written and deleted and rewritten again because I wasn't too sure I wanted to share or if I wanted to keep it to myself.

So I guess sharing won.

To give some history....

I was married once to a guy and we had a kid.  We bought a house.  We had problems and divorce.  The kids and I moved out.  (My son was from a previous nightmare relationship.)  

Fast forward ten years....

My kids and I were living in a small apartment and the neighbors were giving the police lots of business.  I approached my ex since he bought a new house and our old house was sitting vacant for two years. I offered to buy it from him on land contract.  

We saw a lawyer but never finalized things.

My dumb ass moved us in anyway, trusting this man to follow through with finalizing everything.

Fourteen months go by.....14!

His new girlfriend doesn't like the idea of any of this,

She gets herself involved.  She gets him to sign a power of attorney.

She files for eviction.

SHE. FILES.

Not him

This eviction goes to court and then is dismissed on a technical issue.

I agreed to be moved out by December 15th.  

I agreed!!!!  

A second eviction was filed by her six days after the first eviction was dismissed.

SIX DAYS!!!

Even after I said I was moving out.

Second eviction was filed by her without him even knowing she did it.

SERIOUSLY!!!

My ex said he was going to get the second eviction dismissed.  He told me this in person.  He said this in front of his daughter.  He said he was going to call me the next day. 

He never called so I called him..... six times.

He never answered.

I get a phone call from the chief of our local police department telling me to stop harassing my ex and that I am not allowed to call him again.

SERIOUSLY!!!

So I put together an answer to the complaint and went to court today.  The judge asked if I had anything in writing regarding the land contract, the agreements of my move out date, the dismissal.....

Of course my trusting dumb ass never thought about getting anything in writing.

And then the judge said that I had plenty of time to make arrangements to move out with my ex.  When I explained that there was no way to contact my ex since I get a trespassing ticket if I knock on his door (the girlfriend's doing) and I can't call him, the judge said that he is finding in favor of the eviction.

I was stunned.

I have a signed lease with my new place and can't move in until December 1st. 

The judge didn't care.

I mentioned that my daughter's father is making her homeless.

The judge didn't care. 

My daughter's father just allowed her to become homeless.

This man didn't even have the balls to come to court.  He gave his shitty girlfriend power of attorney over my property.  He hasn't even been with this twat for a whole year.

I came home to a sobbing child and I can't make this better.

I tried calling the ex's mother to try to get her to have him call me.  I explained what happened and how upset my daughter is and as that woman was hanging up, I heard her laughing.

The grandmother was laughing.

WTF!


We have about three days before the sheriff comes to remove us.  We will not have any access to any of our property that is left here.

I cannot believe how quickly this whole mess went wrong.  I keep thinking that this is a nightmare and that it isn't happening.

It is right before the holidays.

How does a father allow this to happen?  What kind of grandmother laughs at her granddaughter's sorrow?  What kind of family does this?

WTF!!!

I am thankful for my family and all of their support.  Even if they are hundreds of miles away, they are here for me.

I am thankful for my friends for the offers of help.  Many have offered to store our belongings and take in our animals until our new place is ready.  I am also thankful for those who have offered us a place to sleep for the next two weeks.

Even in this awful time, I am thankful for those who care.

Is This Lazy?

I often joke about being lazy.  Even though I'm really not that lazy.

This photo was posted on Facebook earlier today and many stated that the container is a waste and creating labels is a waste.  Many were quick to judge others in calling out lazy people who have the time to text or be on their phone but don't have time to peel an orange.

My response is "What about those who are handicapped or have horrible arthritis?"

I think of my great grandmother whose fingers were so badly curled and painful due to arthritis.  She couldn't even hold a fork let alone peel an orange.

I think of my dad whose one hand is so unusable, he can barely cut his meat.

I think of veterans who lost limbs.

I think of those who just can't do anything with their hands.

I guess I think like that due to not having use of my legs for several months.  I had to depend on someone to help me with every day tasks like going to the bathroom, showering, getting dressed, you know....things that you just don't have to think about doing.

I also have a strong sense of empathy for others.

I am so angry at those who quickly judge and accuse those of being lazy....too lazy to peel an orange.

Have you ever thought that maybe someday you may not be able to do even the simplest of things?

Someone said that even her two year old can peel an orange.  Ok, but I am sure that her two year old wears diapers or maybe even drinks from juice boxes.  I am sure that you are the perfect, model citizen conscious of such environmental matters and that you are the most non-lazy person on the planet.

Someone even blamed Walmart.  Walmart doesn't even sell pre-peeled oranges.  I should know, I manage the produce department.

People make their own choices.  If they chose a pre-peeled orange, it is still better than a bag of chips or cookies. 

Perhaps those who claim that it is wasteful even drink bottled water or even have a soda from time to time.

People who even have all the time in the world take short cuts from time to time.  Maybe even use beef stock in a can to start your soup "from scratch".

I get so angry over judgmental people these days.

If you think so closed minded maybe you should keep your mouth closed as well.